Words Matter: Using Words to Inspire Action and Self-Love

By Cindy Harley

Hello Fellow Travelers,

I have been noticing beautiful words or words that just make me smile.

My friend used the word sanctuary, and that just gave me warm fuzzy feelings of being safe.

Another word I love is emporium. It just makes me feel like I am in a store of wonder (of course, wonder is another delightful word).

So why do words matter? Words give us a framework and, as you can see above, an emotional response based on past experiences.

Finding Your Words

Now, sanctuary and emporium may not give you the same sense or feelings as they give me. You may have a past experience that is negative with these words. Either way, can you see how words have power?

You may not know what these words mean and get caught up in your logical mind trying to figure it out. Instead of allowing your busy mind to take over, choose a different word or words that make you smile and give you a happiness boost. This is your journey, and you get to choose.

Serendipitously, I received my daily Abraham Hicks quote, which mentioned the power of our word choices.

“You can say things like: Only good things come to me… I’ll figure it out as I go along… Every time you tell your better-feeling story, you will feel better and the details of your life will improve. The better it gets, the better it gets.”

(Excerpted from Money and the Law of Attraction on 8/31/08. Read the full quote.)

Words and Memory

One of my mentors, Karen Curry Parker, mentions that it is words that set up a neural stream in our brain. It is the word that activates the memory that lights up our brain.

Here is a powerful mantra from Karen:

You’re reading this blog post, and it is a bunch of words. My words may have meaning, or they may just be “Words, words, words,” (a reference from the musical My Fair Lady).

“Words! Words! Words!
I’m so sick of words!
I get words all day through;
First from him, now from you!
Is that all you blighters can do?

Don’t talk of stars
Burning above;
If you’re in love,
Show me!

Tell me no dreams
Filled with desire.
If you’re on fire,
Show me!”

Using Words to Inspire Action

Sometimes I think we get too caught up in the words. We can often just get stuck in saying the words to ourselves. But like in the song above, in order to change the situation, we must also do the action.

If you want more abundance, work on your beliefs of deserving but also go out and take a step towards abundance (it might mean taking a job). If you are in a job you hate, that doesn’t preclude you from looking for a better job that is more aligned with your views.

If you want a romantic relationship, work on your beliefs and open your vibration for a relationship but don’t just sit at home and think, “Where is it?” Take the next step.

Even wanting to write words—say, a novel. Set aside time to write, and show the Universe you are committed to becoming an author, not that you are just “playing with words.” When Wayne Dyer spoke to aspiring authors, he told them that he sat down to write every day. He scheduled the time to write and made a commitment to himself.

If your goal is to become a healthier person, scheduling time to honor your body (whether it is taking time to walk, exercise, plan out meals, or stretch) shows the Universe that you are taking steps to the new you.

The Power of Words: Positive and Negative

Remember: our words have power. What we say to ourselves and others matters. If you say something negative to someone, you may be just blowing off steam, but you could really affect how they feel about themselves or you.

Language matters. The words we choose to use matter.

We don’t have to use negative self-talk to accomplish something. I know I can get lost in the negative. I will try to motivate myself by “yelling at myself.” That usually doesn’t work. It might get me started, but then I have a tendency to believe in the negative things that are running in the back of my mind. I get discouraged or depressed, and all forward motion will stop on the goal.

Alternatively, we can use affirmations and then take that step towards accomplishing our goals. However, in my EFT training, we found out that affirmations may not work. This happens when we have a conflicting belief or pattern of beliefs that come in after we say the affirmation.

For example, an affirmation for weight loss may be:
Weight just effortlessly releases and my body becomes flexible, healthy, and vital.

After saying that in my mind, I hear, “Yes, but I have so much weight to lose and nothing works and my body hurts.” This brings up feelings of sadness, and I don’t feel like even starting because there are past experiences that say, “Why bother? It won’t work anyway.”

Then, because of my upbringing, I hear, “Buck up and pull yourself together!” So instead of working through the sadness and releasing it, I would probably distract myself. (Sometimes with food or watching a show on Netflix.)

Working Through Derailed Affirmations

Do you see? I can say the affirmation that should motivate me but because I have past experiences rooted within my mind and body, I default to the “Yes, but…” This hidden belief can completely derail the affirmation.

So what should we do? We can “buck up,” but maybe this time, it means really looking at the hidden beliefs. Work with an energy worker (like Nerissa). Find a way to acknowledge and thank the negative and release the emotion that is holding the belief in place (EFT works).

We must learn to be kind to ourselves and others. If we mess up, acknowledge it and deal with the consequences either on the external level (clean up your mess) or on the internal level.

Life is like a box of chocolates, but we can choose which chocolate or choose none of the chocolates. We live in the 3D world. Our body is here. We can work with all of our bodies (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual) and our ego to align and truly become who we aspire to be.

And sometimes using all of this energy and working on ourselves tires us out. We need a special break. Calming music or sitting in meditation, working with a special crystal, singing our favorite song or taking a run. Anything that brings our bodies (physical, emotional, mental and spiritual) into alignment with each other and raises our vibration.

For a calming break, I love Birchlight Energy’s mini meditations on YouTube. Here is a six-minute Guided Meditation for “Vibrational Grounding”

Be kind, stay grounded, and speak words that bring you a sense of beauty and peace.

Birchlight Energy | BE–Shine Bright

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